Death almost always takes us by surprise, even when expected after long illness or old age; we are never quite ready for it. Pastors and staff of international congregations have unique challenges when there is a death in the church family. Not only is their grief, but also distinctive challenges if the person is an expat, that may need to be addressed, particularly if the staff and congregation are to preside and host a funeral or memorial service.
For example, in the country where I live, a young American male was killed in a bicycle accident. Before, his family in the United States could be contacted his body had been cremated which is the common practice and tradition in this country. The family in the United States was shocked not only because of the sudden death but also that they did not have an opportunity to view their family member. Viewing in a casket with a funeral service in the church sanctuary was an important cultural tradition for this family, something that was not possible in this case. Furthermore at the funeral, the driver of the vehicle came with a large cash gift in an envelope for the family. The family had not been prepared that this may happen; in this culture that is common. Thankfully because of God’s grace the family could respond in forgiveness.
This case simply highlights that it is important for international church staff and ministers to have a general knowledge of what happens when a person dies and the funeral customs and traditions in the country where they find themselves. As many of the members of an international church or congregation are expat’s they may not have the general knowledge of the culture if and when a death occurs.
Here are some general suggestions:
Have a list of several funeral directors (morticians) and companies that are comfortable with the death of a Christian. In some countries where Christians are a minority that may not be easy. And if possible, find out if there is one or two in particular that have dealt with the death of expat.
Have a general idea of funeral arrangements in the culture where you are located. As I am a missionary as well and work with a local church and pastor, I have a general idea of a typical Christian funeral in this culture and have attended several.
If you have further ideas or experiences, please comment for other readers.